Sometimes They Come Back

                       Does the past really die? Well yes and no. When something has happened it is forever in history. It has existed and become real. In that way the past is still alive. As long as the little boy fell off the monkey bars that moment will always exist for him.  It will exist in history because it happened. However when the people who are directly by the past die, and when toe who are affected by them die, then the past is forgotten and nonexistent. The past, I think, is always with us. It's apart of our personal history that's ours and makes us who we are. And no matter what we can never truly forget ( unless you have soap opera amnesia). Human beings can move on, and learn form their past, but complete erasing is impossible. Take Sethe for instance, she'd rather not remember her time at Sweet Home but can't forget it. It's something that took place and shaped her. What I do disagree with is not letting go of the pass. It's not dismissing it or looking through rose colored glasses, it's accepting it and moving on. Berniece didn't do it and she was unhappy and bitter for a good portion of her life. Dwelling on the past can often can often blind you to the future (cliche). Now, I will provide a little sad story on this subject. Once upon a time I lived next to a boy who's mother treated him pretty badly. I didn't know this, and was focused about why he spent a lot of time over my house and around me. But one day I moved away and it wasn't until I was older and when my mother told me that I realized the truth: he was being abused. All of a sudden I nitpicked all my memories of him  to try to spot the warning signs, and I blamed myself for not noticing and not getting help. But I realize that I was just a kid, what could I do?I don't harp or obsess about what happened but have made up my mind to stop and get help for abuse if I ever come across it. Therefore my past hasn't really dies, I keep it in my memory to serve as a caution and reminder to do better in the future.